Every mans battle pornography12/8/2022 ![]() Rob Andrescik, former editor of New Man magazine, subscribes to Covenant Eyes, an Internet accountability program. The program sends Ron’s accountability partner a regular e-mailed report listing every single web site he visits. “Without accountability we will be … unable to control our behavior.” The Bible puts it this way: “He who conceals his sins does not prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them finds mercy” (Proverbs 28:13). “We must establish at least one to three supportive relationships for the purpose of accountability,” writes Russell Willingham in his book Breaking Free. If you are serious about fighting temptation, you need to admit that you can’t trust yourself. So ask someone else to keep you accountable, to make sure you’re living according to God’s ways. Recognize the sources of “that little pop” and avoid whatever causes it. Throw away the movies with scenes that might cause your mind to go where it shouldn’t. And don’t linger on the lingerie ads. That’s key. If we seriously desire to prevent or stop a pornography problem, we must not allow ourselves to even look at it. ![]() “Not only did I train my eyes to bounce away from (sensual) ads, I also trained myself not to pick them up in the first place,” Fred explains. These authors compare bouncing the eyes to yanking a hand away from a hot stove. “If we define lusting as staring open-mouthed until drool pools at your feet, then a glance isn’t the same as lusting,” they write. “But if we define lusting as any look that creates a chemical high, that little pop, then we have something a bit more difficult to measure.” So train yourself to “bounce your eyes.” In other words, discipline your eyes to immediately look away from anything that might cause lust. Stephen Arterburn, Fred Stoeker and Mike Yorkey wrote Every Man’s Battle to help Christian men fight against lust and pornography. You are not your own you were bought with a price. Therefore, honor God with your body”- (1 Corinthians 6:18-20). Fred realized, “I have no right to even consider looking at it. I haven’t the authority.” Memorizing Scripture to help combat the temptation to lust has aided him many times. ![]() When Fred Stoeker found a Playboy magazine on top of a hotel ice machine, he considered the risks of one little compromise. He began to weigh the pros and cons in his mind - he was on a business trip his wife would never know. Should he look at it or not? Then Fred recalled a Scripture memory verse, or as he calls it, a shield verse: “Flee from sexual immorality…. Here are four steps to winning the war against pornography: 1. Build a shield Steve Arterburn one of the authors just happens to also be on staff and a teaching pastor at our local church here in Carmel, IN.Pornography is progressive what starts as a glimpse becomes a gawk. It follows the law of diminishing returns - whet the appetite and we want more. No seven-year-old chooses an XXX-rated movie at the video store. It starts smaller, wearing down convictions a little at a time. Therefore, any form of compromise is serious. There are also women, and youth versions if you are looking to share it with others. I would highly recommend this book to be read with another man, accountability partner, or in a small group of men. It doesn’t matter how you have ‘acted’ (either with women, or thoughts in your head) all men can benefit from learning from our past, and developing changes for our future. Instead, it is about how we learn the tools in order to deny this norm, and equip ourselves, retrain our minds to defeat the constant “thoughts” and reactions we have developed. The battle isn’t how do we defeat this cultural norm. ![]() This epidemic of ultra sexual, highly sensual content and comments are just normal. But what I quickly realized is how this is every man’s battle, because it is embedded and engrained in our culture. I saw the title, and thought, oh, another book on how to deal with porn. The book assignment changes each round of Fight Club, and this one just happened to be the one the leaders picked. When I first read this book, it was during my first Round of Fight Club.
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